Relationship Expert Amara Blessing Nwosu Writes On Embracing Sexual Thoughts

Dear Brethren,

When has sexual thought become a sin? If you like, deny it; if you like, tell me I am a liar, the fact is that your teenager is struggling with sexual thoughts and it’s a phase he or she must go through. Being born again doesn’t mean you stop existing in this world; it doesn’t mean you will stop being human, it only means that the Holy Spirit is there to guide you aright and help you not to dwell long in it and not to mess yourself up with that thought. But are you going to stop being human? The answer is NO! Even your bishop struggles with sexual thoughts and feelings sometimes. God who created you didn’t make a mistake, He made you that way. If at a certain stage of your life, you don’t have sexual thoughts and feelings, something is wrong with you. But like I said, part of your being born-again is in your ability to bring your body under subjection. I wonder what some people think that the word ‘Born Again’ means.

So many of us tend to think of our bodily responses as evil. Somewhere in our minds, the physical is bad and sinful; I used to reason like that until I developed a better understanding of God’s holy word. God created our bodies to respond the way they do. Our bodies become ready for sex at a young age, during puberty, which is completely natural.

Please don’t destroy your children by telling them all those negative things about sex because it has led a lot of young people into masturbation, homosexuality, and frigidity in adulthood. I have handled cases of women running away and screaming in pain whenever their husband approaches them for sex. They don’t scream because the man’s penis is too big; they don’t scream because it’s actually painful, their scream is psychological. Two of such women recently confessed to me that they are in that mess because of all the negative things they were told about sex.

Let your children know that sex is a very beautiful experience but they should get involved in it the right way-marriage, when they are grown and ready to bear the consequences of their act. All you need to do is to teach them the word of God and let them be. Stop feeding them with fear all in the name of good parenting (now I know that those religious folks that always see negative in articles like this will twist this to mean something else).

Now, I’m not at all advocating for sex before marriage or people to push past physical boundaries they’re uncomfortable with! The Bible is clear about sexual immorality and that we are to stay far from it. God honors sex within marriage, not outside of it (though many “brothers” have deceived “sisters” into marrying impotency all in the name of ‘no sex before marriage’)

As humans created in God’s image and filled with his spirit, we need to keep our thoughts pure. What it takes to do that might be different for each person. But I think we can also remember that part of the way God created humans — in His image — was in a very physical way. This is something all over the Scriptures, but we’ve watered it down due to the influence, not of the Bible, but of Greek thought.

What I’m not saying is that sexual desire is super awesome so do whatever you can with your boyfriend or girlfriend to bring those feelings on. What I am saying is that it is important for us to have a correct and biblical way of thinking about physicality. Having sexual thought is not a sin; it’s only a part of God’s work in you and it makes you a normal person. But dwelling on it and watching, reading, or doing things to keep that thought permanent in you is what is sinful.

God created sex as a good thing. Our culture and religion has distorted that picture and made sex something very ungodly. Because of the secular culture’s distortion of sex, many Christians have responded by making anything sexual bad and wrong. This is why a good number of religious people don’t enjoy sex in marriage. Instead of talking about our bodies and sex as something awesome and beautiful that God has created for marriage, we bash it for years and years and then expect the negative language and thoughts about sex to immediately dissipate once a couple says “I do” (wondering why married Christian couples keep having problems in their bedroom).

So, my point: How do we think about the physical in general? We are Christians, but has our thought process been a bit influenced by traces of Gnosticism — are we more comfortable with a non-physical, spiritual world? If so, why?

A lot of questions, I know! But our actions are influenced by our true beliefs. That’s why I feel it’s crucial that we take a look at the way we think about these things, making sure that our thoughts on this topic are truly biblical. That’s why I believe that it time for the church to rise and speak to married couples on sex and sexuality. A good number of problems coming to me for counseling emanated from lack of sexual satisfaction in marriage. Preachers, please stop being timid to tell your members the truth they need to hear. If you can’t speak this truth, please face the spiritual aspect of your ministry and get someone to come educate your members on the need for good sex in marriage.

Finally, on ladies worrying about size of penis, it’s not about the size; it’s more about the skill. Good lovemaking is never about macho and king size; it’s about true love and intimacy. Trust me; he can get you screaming with that thing you call ‘small’. Don’t let those porn videos you watch deceive you, there is no intimacy between them and they are mostly on drugs when they do that.

French Tourist Claims To Have Slept With 1400 Women, Impregnating 600 In Two Years

40 year-old Jean Michel, has admitted to impregnating at least 600 women in six African countries within two years. The six countries included Nigeria, Cameroon, Ivory Coast, Togo, Ghana and Guinea.

According to a news site ‘Africa24’ the French tourist revealed that many Africans see all westerners as very wealthy people who can change their lives. They easily give in to all their requests and desires and are taken advantage of.

His confession has been translated from French to English by Simon Ateba in Washington, District of Columbia:

“Good morning Africa 24, I have a confession to make about the havoc I have wreaked in six African countries, including Cameroon, Togo, Cote D’Ivoire, Nigeria, Ghana and Guinea. I am not proud of what I have done. These were unfortunate experiences.

“In France where I hail from, I did not have money. I was very poor until one day I played and won lottery. I won 550 thousand euros. It was the largest sum of money I had received in life.

“I did not know what to do, and a friend suggested we travel to Africa. We obtained all the documents, entry visa, and the rest, and our first stop was Ivory Coast.

“In Abidjan (the capital of Ivory Coast), we rented a furnished apartment. We had money to spend and met Ivorian people and we became friends. They introduced young Ivorian girls to us, and that’s when it all started.

“I began having sex with girls every day. Sometimes, I would sleep with three girls at the same time. It was a marvelous experience.

“I worried less about my health. All I wanted was to have fun. My friends and I were in a night club in the town every day looking for girls.

“One time, I met a girl and gave her money, and she told me to be engaged to her. She was ready to get pregnant for me. I don’t know whether it was the money they liked or the fact that I was from France that attracted them.

“I spent three months in Ivory Coast, spent 60,000 euros and slept with more than 80 girls.

“After leaving Ivory Coast, I went to Togo where I slept with over 100 girls and spent 40,000 euros.

“I spent three months in Togo and went to Nigeria.

“Nigeria was where I got more girls. I did not speak English, and it seems Nigerian girls love foreigners.

“I rented a furnished apartment in Nigeria and I was in Lagos for six months. I spent 100,000 euros and slept with 230 girls. Nigeria was the place I appreciated the most. Girls were always available and easy to deceive.

“From Nigeria, I went to Ghana, and then Cameroon and ended what I describe as my sex tour in Guinea.

“I was in those three countries for more than a year and spent over 200,000 euros. If I told you I slept with more than 700 girls in those three countries, you won’t believe me, but it was unbelievable!

“In all, I slept with more than 1,400 girls in six different African countries. I have all their pictures in my photo album, including the dates we met, their names and phone numbers. I opened a Facebook account only for them.

“Since I returned to France, I have had more than 600 of them who told me they got pregnant for me. Some committed abortion, and I do not know exactly how many finally gave birth.

“Africa is a marvelous continent. Girls are beautiful and very sexy. All they want is a man who has money, and the worst is when he’s white.

“I realised that they love having mixed race babies. I do not know why, but many would do anything to get pregnant for you. 100 euros is plenty of money in Africa.

“To summarise, I went on a sex tour in Africa, I slept with 1,400 girls in two years and more than 600 got pregnant.

“I know many of you would judge me, but I do not care about your insults. I know that what I did is not good, but I enjoyed my stay in Africa, and I am planning another trip to Senegal, Mali, Gabon, Benin, Niger and Democratic Republic of Congo.

“The day after I returned to France, I went to the hospital for medical exams, and luckily, I was HIV negative, and I did not have any other infectious disease.

“My friend was also negative and we are planning another trip.

“I did not go to secondary school, so disregard my grammatical errors. Thank you for reading my story”.


Sex & Life: Do Nice Girls Finish Last?

Apparently, nice girls just don’t get it. That’s why they are single or in a dead-end relationships.

Being called “nice” used to be considered a good thing. But in our eat or be eaten world, nice girls are often put on the back burner in favour of more exciting, mysterious, and even dramatic girls. Most guys are drawn to X-girls who will make their heart race and keep them on their toes, unfortunately “nice” girls don’t exactly do that. They are the type of girls that will travel to go spend a weekend at their own expense, do homely things, all with the thought that she’s investing in the joint future with her guy.

They do not get angry when a guy doesn’t buy them a birthday present, or Vals gift. They are mostly contented just to support their guy until he achieves his aims in life. Nice girls looking for love just aren’t getting it right. They’re not asking for what they want, they don’t have the strength or the balls to get out of bad relationships and will generally accept a man’s bull shit for as long as she can take it without speaking up. As a guy, “while bad girls can be exciting, they’re usually only worth it in the short term”.

If you can find a good girl and turn her into a sexual animal, you may have just found the perfect woman. One truth is that men respond well to naughty girls. Here are some reasons why nice girls come up short in love.

  1. They are boring

You always know what to expect with a nice girl. She always does the right thing.

  1. They let guys walk over them

Guys have to push girls’ button. They’ll do it on purpose to test her limits. But the nice girl doesn’t have any, as soon as a guy realizes that, he loses all respect for her and its downhill from there.

  1. They give guys too many chances

Instead of cutting a betraying guy out of her life, the nice girls will give him another chance. And another; and another. Whether he deserves them or not, she always thinks it’s her duty to let him prove he can change, when it would be better for both of them if she just walked away.

  1. They don’t take risks

Not only will the nice girl probably not ask a guy out, she’ll rarely venture far outside of her comfort zone at all. She’ll have a hard time meeting new guys, or intriguing them at all because she rather be nice than interesting.

  1. They think being “Nice” is enough

They rely so much on their image, as the nice girl next door that they forget guys like girls with personality.

No guy wants to date someone who is just nice. They want a little edge.

  1. They’re afraid to step on toes

She and her friend have their eye on the same guy, but the nice girl will always bow out gracefully rather than fight for what she wants.

In most and almost absurd ways, bad girls get the good guys. Most of their approach and technique is that they know how to find quality men, know how to position them. They know what men actually want and most importantly, they are ‘sexperts’.

Do not get me wrong. Being nice is good, for the records at least, but to enjoy being nice, you need to stand up for what you want. Being nice does not mean you should be gullible to know what is right and absolutely comet.

See 5 Shocking Ways You Can Get Pregnant Without Having Sex

Technically it’s possible to get pregnant without having sex, even if you’re a virgin. That’s the submission of experts.

They warn that if you’re not planning on having a baby any time soon, it’s important to know what kind of sexual behaviour might put you at risk of getting pregnant.

Gynaecologists say basically, it’s very possible to get pregnant if semen comes into contact with your vagina at any point.

Here are some of the ways you can get pregnant without trying…

• Dry humping: This is the process whereby two people repeatedly move up and down and back and forth on top of each other fully clothed or missing various pieces. But the penis must not come in contact with the vagina without some sort of fabric separating them. But even at that, gynaecologists warn that a woman can still get pregnant without being penetrated or even undressed. According to sexperts, it’s possible for a woman to become pregnant from dry humping – even if she hasn’t removed her underwear! This is because sperm can soak through lingerie. So, know from now on that grinding (aka dry sex/humping) really puts you at risk of accidental pregnancy, although it is rare.

• Breastfeeding: A popular myth is that active or exclusive breastfeeding prevents new mothers from conceiving a second time around. However, physicians warn that this isn’t true! They say that contrary to whatever you may have been told, breastfeeding is NOT a natural contraceptive and it cannot decrease your chances of becoming pregnant soon after giving birth.

• No ejaculation: Many couples think that using the “pull out” method will stop them from having a baby, but you can still get pregnant, even if a man hasn’t ejaculated at all. This is because pre-ejaculation fluid that oils the penis during foreplay contains a small amount of semen which can fertilise an egg.

• Rhythm or calendar method: Another popular sex misconception is that a woman can’t get pregnant if a couple abstain from sex when she’s in the most “fertile” part of her cycle. But physicians say a woman can, indeed, can get impregnated at any point during the month, including when she’s on her period.

• Using contraception: Get this clear: no form of contraception is 100 per cent effective. Therefore, it’s still possible to conceive despite being on the pill or using a condom.