Tragic: Nigerian Musician Alizee, Daughter Killed By Her Italian Husband

Ali Zainab Nielsen known as Alizee is a Kogi born singer with a two year record deal with an Asian record label, Petra Entertainment in 2017. The record deal came with a brand new Ford explorer, a house in Banana Island and international distribution with affiliates of her record company in Asia.

The singer was killed alongside her daughter Petra Nielsen at her Banana Island residence in Lagos State.

According to reports Alizee was murdered in the morning of the 5th of April by her Italian husband Peter Nielsen.

According to LIB, a member of her management team said

‘its really a shocking and sad development. We all woke up to the sad news of her death this morning and to find out that the homicide was committed by her husband makes it all the more sad. The Police has been brought in to the case and we’ll share more details as we get them’.

There has been no police reports yet on the issue and although the staffs accuse the husband of the murder, they has been no concrete evidence against him, or a motive behind the murders.

Details shortly

 

Drama In Ile Ife As Man Beats Wife To Stupor For Refusing To Have Sex With Him

By Sodiq Lawal

There was drama at Ojoyin road in Ile Ife as a 40-year-old man popularly called Baba Ope beat his wife to stupor for refusing to have sex with him for  months.

The incident occurred on Tuesday afternoon about 4:15pm.

It was gathered that the husband got home around 3:30pn on the day of the incident and demanded sex from his wife but she refused, a pattern she had taken for a long time.

The husband was said to have accused her of cheating on him and grabbed his wife by the neck and dragged her outside, and beat her up.

His wife suffered severe cuts as a result of the beating and was taken to a hospital by relations who came to her rescue.

The husband claimed that he beat his wife out of frustration: “I did it out of frustration and anger. My wife refused to have sex with me for the last 4 months. Before then, I even had to pay her to have sex with me. I believe she is cheating on me because she does not answer her phone in my presence. Sometimes she moves away or even hangs up the phone
call.”

Domestic Maid Sets Brothers Ablaze In Anambra

The unfortunate incident that lead to the death of a five year-old boy Ekene has finally been revealed by a relative.

According to their uncle Kingsley Ubani Ekene died while his younger brother Ebuka is currently fighting for life at the hospital in Awka, Anambra State capital after being set ablaze by their maid.

He wrote;

“May be its time to talk about this. About three weeks ago, my two little cousins met a near fatal fate as their house help, a minor set them ablaze for no concrete reason.
My boy Ekene and his brother Ebuka fought hard. This night, around 1am, news reached us that Ekene has lost the battle. Ebuka is still fighting on. Please pray for my boy Ebuka.
#PrayForEbuka”

 

Domestic Violence By Debbie Obasa

Domestic violence basically means a violent or aggressive behaviour within home or typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner. It is a violation of a person’s fundamental human rights, which the Nigerian constitution forbids. A prohibition act [The Violation Against Persons Prohibition Bill (VAPP)] was passed by Nigeria House of Representatives and the Senate in 2013 and May 2015 respectively. The act came as a result of agitations for protection of persons against different forms of violence. Violence, both at the home front and the larger society, is fast becoming a trend recently in Nigeria and it has to be curbed. Daily, there are reports of people killing or maiming their spouses; or a scorned lover pouring acid on ex-lover; or someone being forcefully taken away from his/her family and loved ones.

However, under the VAPP Act, we have laws covering issues like rape, spousal battery, forceful ejection from home, forced financial dependence or economic abuse, harmful widowhood practices, female circumcision, or genital mutilation, abandonment of children, harmful traditional practices, harmful substance attacks such as acid bath, political violence, etc. The perpetrators claim that traditionally, in Nigeria, the beating of wives and children is widely sanctioned as discipline. Therefore, in beating their children, parents believe they are instilling discipline in them. It is the same some husbands beat their wives.

Yes, in actual fact, some women force their husbands to anger, but that must not translate to laying of hands or other form of attacks as punishment or correctional measure. Gbenga Kola, a resident of Ile-Ife, Osun State, said his culture abhors violence against women.

Most times, women are mostly the victims of domestic violence, hence, the need to put domestic violence issues in the front burner of discussions and consider what the law says about it. 25% of women reported forced sex cases in the hands of either their partner or a former partner. Also, the 2014 Demographic and Health survey showed that over 50.5% of married women have experienced at least one or more forms of physical, emotional or sexual violence in their marriage. Relationship inequalities is also a strong indicator of physical violence.  REASONS OR EXCUSES THAT GIVEN FOR PHYSICAL ABUSE

1)      High level of wife beating occurs when the woman is making more money than her husband, or partner.

2)      Husbands being drunk.

3)      Financial issues

4)      Rejection of partner sexual advances

5)      Hereditary

6)      Husbands who are very controlling or highly tempered.

Another form of rampant recently in Nigeria is The Acid Bath. Acid bath is an act of violence where the perpetrator throws acid onto his or her victims body, resulting to disfigurement and possible loss of eye sight. Acid bath is a social ill that needs to be immediately addressed.

The Osun State House of Assembly has passed the Anti-Domestic Violence Bill, 2013, into law. House Leader Timothy Owoeye (Ilesha East) moved the motion for its passage and it was seconded by the Deputy Chief Whip, Akin Taiwo Adeyemi at plenary.  The Speaker, Najeem Salaam, said the law protects women and other vulnerable people from all forms of domestic abuses, such as battery and denial of their rights.

He urged the Ministry of Information and Strategy to sensitise residents on the law.  Meanwhile, provision of penal code applicable in the Northern part of Nigeria specifically encourages violence against women. Underneath its provisions, the beating of a wife for the purpose of correction is legal by use of section 55(1) (d) of the penal code.

The penalty for such acts under Section 19 (1)of the Violence against Persons Acts 2015 prohibits spousal battery and provides thus: “a person who batters his or her spouse commits an offence and is liable on conviction to a term of imprisonment not exceeding 3years or to a fine not exceeding N200,000 or both. The law further states that an attempt to commit the act of spousal battery also attract imprisonment not exceeding 1year or a fine not exceeding N100,000 or both. Inciting another to commit the offence also attracts a jail term not exceeding 2years or a fine not exceeding N200,000 or both.

It is unfortunate that despite the enactment of laws prohibiting domestic violence against women, it still occurs by the day and not all of these are being reported, hence the need for enlightenment in this regard.

If you know anyone who is a victim of domestic violence, share this with them, support them, you could be saving their lives as all forms of it should be reported to security officials.

24 Year Old Woman Kills Husband Over Sex

The Uganda Police have arrested a 24-year-old woman for stabbed her husband to death because he refused to make love with her.

Harriet Nambi, who hails from Nakiyanhja,Kaliro Town council stabbed Musa Batera 25, for refusing to have sex with her ever since she gave birth two months ago through cesarean.

Until his death, Batera who was married to 3 wives was the chairman of Kaliro district Boda Boda Association, while Nambi is a primary school teacher at Kaliro Town.

Hasifa Babirye, a neighbor said the couple developed some quarrels some 3 days ago where Nambi accused Batera of repeatedly refusing to sleep with her.

“She told me that her husband was denying her sex yet she needed it. I asked her to wait since she had just been operated upon but she was obsessed,” Babirye told police.

“I tried to ask her to give it time but she said she was going to harm him and when the husband returned, she stabbed him.” she added.

According to residents, Nambi lured the deceased to their rented house and as soon as he entered, she started quarrelling which developed into a fight.

Kaliro District police boss, Joseph Kihamba, who confirmed the incident, said the suspect has been arrested and is to be charged with murder.

 

Battering Your Wife May Shorten Your Life By Akin Fadeyi

About ten years ago, my tough, disciplinarian Uncle stopped talking to a certain friend of his. I told him how wrong it was to indulge in malice. He gave me a very steely look, told me to sit down and told me this pathetic story:

His friend was not employed and was not going to touch anything that is from his egoistic prism, “lower than his standard”, to earn a living. So his wife picked all the bills, fed the man, clothed him, paid their only child’s school fees and gave monthly pocket allowance to her in-laws. When there were family ceremonies from her husband’s parents or relatives, she catered for the guests, bought the chosen aso-ebis, and gave money to her mother-in-law and father-in-law. They would take her money and utter not a word of thanks to her. Because their son lied to them that he was a “business man” with a huge income. So they concluded that, “after all she’s giving us from our son’s money”. She, in turn, never told them the truth, so as to “cover her husband’s shame”. Meanwhile, she was a comfortable banker without personal financial issues.

One day, she thought she might be coming down with a complicated pregnancy of their second child. The visits to her usual private hospital were not yielding the desired result. She spoke with a friend in the UK, who also spoke to her own GP. The friend in the UK then sent the relevant documents for her to process her visa. It was her first time abroad. With a good bank statement and job profile, she got the visa. Excited, she went home and informed the husband. His response fired a chill through the air: “Have I your husband being to London before?” Shivering and with trepidation, she replied: “No”. Thereafter, he said, “Then you can never visit London before me”! He also added the cliche from men suffering from inferiority complex: “Is it because you have money? Are other women not coping in our local hospitals?”

She thought she was in a dream. This man knew the urgent pressing situation from the life-threatening pregnancy. But he did not budge as she cried. So she called his parents to weigh in on her behalf. The in-laws said they couldn’t advise her to “go against our son’s wish”.

She sought help from her own parents. They told her, “you know if we intervene now, it would seem as if we’re influencing you against your husband”. She was stuck! She had no time to waste, and so opted for the private hospital. Something went wrong as they tried to manage her. Don’t forget that she had lost precious time seeking to persuade her iron willed and intransigent husband. Doctors battled to save her, she went into coma and never returned. Today she’s no more.

She died because she married a man who had an unnecessary ego, inferiority complex and chauvinistic stone-age ideas.

My uncle said another woman moved in about two years later and the innocent child from the late wife became a step-daughter. You can imagine the rest of the story.

Some other women will fight this. They will raise hell so as to survive. But certain upbringing from diverse backgrounds given to daughters can configure them in default docility, so much that they don’t even know when husbands reduce them to pieces of rag, to be picked and used, to be pumped and killed.

For this some women become rebels and take the law into their hands. Unfortunately, the moment she murders her husband, she has crossed the red line in law. I have the empathy that Nigerian women go through a lot in the bondage and den of some men who are not worthy to be called husbands. I know some women endure the worst forms of humiliation in the hands of some men whose penchant for gender discrimination and suppression of the womenfolk is a delightful paranoia. I know some men were raised from childhood to disregard, disrespect and shut down the voice of women. Such men shall never make good husbands. Such men are domestic slave holders. Turning the woman into market slaves, kitchen slaves, laundry slaves, and slaves to be used as caterers, glorified maids at functions of her in-laws and then sex slaves who participate in sessions she never enjoys. A marriage counselling consultant once told me some women have complained that when they try to be active participants in bed, their hubbies ask them, “what is wrong with you, are you a prostitute”?

At the same time, these women are not allowed to say NO to SEX. This can end in rape, because the man will strangle her and scream: “I PAID YOUR DOWRY!”

Why do women marry and keep living with men with inferiority complexes, and with insecurity issues? Men who cannot cope but would rather loathe the attainments of their wives! Men who cannot celebrate the same women who went through labour and gave birth to their children. Such men are mere cold-hearted, insensitive, robotic mannequins, only with the physiology of functioning male organs. Such men have committed murder. Either through physical execution or mental torture of their spouses.

Some women also abuse men. They nag, they whine, they slap and they deny him! They dish his food like he’s begging for it. They play domestic politics that skew the children’s support to their myopic little in-house political corners. Such have not only destroyed their today, they have designed the wrong life-template for their children.

When these toxic relationships get to the boiling point, various scenarios play out. Some women become “prayer warriors” and outer clause “congregation” for their pastors in endless counselling sessions.

In all fairness, some pastors are fantastic psychologists. They do all they can to turn the home around and back on the sail. However, some other ones spot opportunity for sidekicks and take advantage of the woman’s engendered vulnerability. With some well seasoned and ulterior-motif motivational deliveries, she’s hypnotised and ends up warming the “pastor’s” bed! Meanwhile, she’s just one of the “bed warmers” in his league of emotionally traumatised women.

This is well interlaced with some other women who seek escapism in infidelity. While it is hard to excuse them, it’s also constraining to blame them. But she who the shoe pinches feels the hurt. You cannot pass a verdict of damnation on an “adulterer” until you feel her kind of heat!

Some other women resort to self-help. They have been traumatised, they have been used, they have been told the ridiculous lines of “don’t kill me as your mother killed your father before I married you”. In there the husband inadvertently offers a tragic solution that the wife never thought of. And on a day her oppressive tiger snores away, she reaches for the knive and delivers her justice in cold blood murder. She sought her own escapism in a vendetta of tragic dimension. The law picks her up, and as she shuttles between prison remand and courtroom trial, the children become unpropitious, doomed victims. By the way, she does not have to use the knife. The woman who you beat but who still cooks your food holds the key to your grave.

In all of these, it’s pertinent to drive home some home truth. Our society is guilty of domestic violence! Some of those who sit behind the desks to determine when to weigh in and save a combustible situation are warped in thinking, ultra-conservative in judgment and limited by medieval mentality. I once heard of a woman who went to complain at a certain well known police formation that her husband was battering her. She also told them he now rapes her at will and she’s under siege that he might strangle her one day. I heard the O/C asked “how can your husband rape you, there’s nothing like spousal rape. No be your husband? No de talk like that o, IT IS NOT GOOD”. When the lady insisted her life was under threat, he told her bluntly, the Nigerian law does not protect her. He told her she should first go and pack out of the house with her children and then come back to report for processes of divorce and ex parte motions. She has no money. She went back home. She’s stuck and waiting for the worse. What kind of law makes it impossible for the police to invite a man disposed to committing murder anytime and place him under watch with a stern warning to at least save his wife and children. It beats me.

Most of our NGOs too only pay lip service to protect the women. They receive many reports but do nothing. But the day the domestic murder takes place and it becomes celebrated in the media, they jostle up and down, issuing well rehearsed lip-service statements and seeking cheap public relations’ relevance. Shame indeed!
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And as long as we treat domestic violence with kid gloves, and as our society insists the disregarded, unheard and unseen wife must keep co-existing with her assaulter, let’s all live with a tragic and bitter reality which is that more women will seek self-help and more brutal husbands may kiss the dust and bid the world good bye.

I must note with optimism and commendation that Lagos State has stepped up it’s game to curb domestic violence. It has set up Lagos Protection Against Domestic Violence Agency. On December 8, 2016 at a United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) activity to mark “16 Days of Activism Against-Based Violence Campaign”, Commissioner for Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, Mrs. Lola Akande reiterated that “domestic violence remains a crime in Lagos State since the law providing protection against the act was still in place, and as such violators would be prosecuted accordingly”.

This is heartwarming. However, more effort is required to walk the talk. I received a report recently of someone who reported her matter to the Agency, having been referred by the Area G Command in Ogba. The Agency listened to her and started inviting the hubby through text messages. As we type, he is yet to honour the invitation, and the Agency has done nothing further to rein him in. This is dangerous and may be another murder waiting to happen. Domestic Protection Agencies should be proactive, engaging and pragmatic in taking actions to save Nigerian women.

We cannot continue to live in denial in this country. Women are vital to national development. Children are better saved from witnessing mentally damaging sights of “horror movie” at home. Usually, it shapes the eventual narrative of their entire life.

And for every wife that her husband has done well for but still thinks the pasture is greener out there, this is some bit of counsel: That minister you admire may be dealing with his own domestic issues; that governor you adore may be relating to his wife only through the ADC. That CEO you’re comparing your husband with may indeed be battering his own wife at home. There is no “perfect man” in a battered economy, with struggles to keep up pace; all men just try to be above board. Communicating with your spouse in the bluntest of language is essential. Laying bare all that rocked your marriage in 2017 and why you think you may not live with it in 2018. Conversely, playing your upbuilding part and nagging your husband less. The holy books compare a nagging wife with a leaking roof. Where shall her husband find peace? Some men can be won over with wisdom and well-bred conduct.

And for the beasts in men who can never treat women with honour, the Nigerian government should, as a matter of urgency, embrace global best practices in women and children protection. Most men who assault their wives in Nigeria are quite aware that if they do the same in saner climes, they would not only be bundled out of the house, they would be instructed not to trespass within a certain radius of the premises occupied by their estranged families. And they would probably still be mandated to pay the rent!

But here in Nigeria, they become pugilists at home. But seriously, only cowards batter their wives!

And as long as we treat domestic violence with kid gloves, and as our society insists the disregarded, unheard and unseen wife must keep co-existing with her assaulter, let’s all live with a tragic and bitter reality which is that more women will seek self-help and more brutal husbands may kiss the dust and bid the world good bye.

I know new year resolutions have been catalogued here and there. Some want to read more books this year, some want to buy new cars, build new houses, change apartments or get involved more “in the service of the Lord”. But I am really interested in knowing how many husbands made a resolution and a serious one at that to henceforth stop mentally assaulting or physically battering their wives altogether. This may be a good resolution to consider: You may just be saving your own life.

 

Pastor Beats His Wife To Death In Anambra

A manhunt has been launched by the Nigerian Poilce in Anambra State for a charismatic pastor, identified as Everitus, for allegedly beating his wife, Fidelia, to death.

It was learnt that Everitus, who is also an ex-boxer attacked his wife during a disagreement at their home in Uli, in Ihiala Local Government Area of Anambra State.

Fidelia had demanded money for Christmas food from the husband when an argument ensued between them. As the argument degenerated, the retired boxer was alleged to have beaten the wife to a pulp.

The matter was said to have been reported to the police at the Ihiala division as some youths vented their anger on the suspect’s country house in Amamputu village, in the same council area.

The state Police Public Relations Officer, ASP Nkiruka Nwode, however, said the report had yet to get to her office.

An eyewitness, who do not want to be identified told PUNCH that the mob set Everitus’ country house ablaze after the incident occurred on boxing day.

He said, “The man and the wife had been married for some time now. They usually have disagreements. The man was a retired boxer who has become a pastor of a charismatic church.

“The wife, who is a trader in Ekeagbagba Market, had asked him for money that she wanted to prepare food for Christmas.

“That was what started the fight. He beat her to death over the issue. The man is on the run, while the case has been reported to the police.”

 

28 Year-Old Bride Forced Into Marriage Attacks Husband

A newly-wedded bride in Sokoto, Shafa Muhammad, 28, has attacked her husband with a razor blade and injured him on the head.

According to reports Shafa was forced to marry her husband, which lead to the reason for the attack. The couple resides at Arkillar Liman Area, Wamakko Local Government Area of Sokoto State. The incident allegedly occurred on Dec.16, just three weeks after the couple Wedded.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) gathered that Shafa was allegedly forced to marry Umar Shehu against her wish.

“The husband went into her room to consummate the marriage when she attacked him with a razor blade.

“He sustained injuries on the head as a result of the attack,’’ a source close to the family, who pleaded anonymity, told NAN.

Confirming the incident, the spokesman of the Sokoto state Police Command, ASP Ibrahim Abarass, said the husband had been treated and discharged from the hospital because his injuries were not life threatening.

Abarass, however, said the wife had been detained by the police and would be prosecuted after investigation.

 

Banker Beats Wife To Death In Lagos

Another tragic case of domestic violence that has led to death has been reported in Lagos. Olaoluwa Adejo, a 32-year-old bank worker has been arrested for the death of his 28-year-old wife, Maureen, at their home on Peluola Street, Oworonshoki, Bariga, Lagos State.

Olaoluwa was alleged to have tortured his wife of five years with a belt, as well as cutting her with a machete. Their 5-year-old son, Richard, who witnessed the incident, said that his father also forced a local insecticide, otapiapia, down the throat of his mother. Recounting the incident, the child said;

“My daddy beat my mummy with a belt; machete her here (shows arms), machete her here (shows legs). He used the belt on her here (points at face); forced my mummy to drink otapiapia (insecticide). My daddy took my mummy away.

My daddy said my mummy should get out of the house. My mummy said no. In the night, my daddy woke my mummy up and said, ‘Mosquito is too much, let me go and buy otapiapia’. My daddy forced my mummy to drink it. She shook her head. She vomited.

My daddy slapped my mummy. My mummy did not do anything to him. My daddy gave her one blow. My daddy kicked her. Small blood came out. My daddy slapped her, kicked her, machete her, blow her, and put otapiapia in her mouth and in the food,”

The victim’s mother, Mrs. Kate Jonathan, explained that her daughter had moved out of her matrimonial house five days prior the incident and was living with her but decided to return for a party at the children’s school. She said her daughter never returned alive.

She said she reported the case at the Station, where she was told that the suspect had already reported that his wife committed suicide by taking local insecticide, Sniper.

It was gathered that Olaoluwa had already deposited the body of his wife in the Gbagada General Hospital mortuary and had allegedly gone to obtain court documents to enable him to bury her, before he was arrested.

The victim’s mother, Jonathan, who claimed to have visited the mortuary, said Maureen’s body had machete cuts and other torture marks.

The Police Public Relations Officer, SP Chike Oti, said investigations were ongoing into the incident.

 

Son Of Former PDP Chairman Stabbed To Death By Wife

Bilyamin Muhammed Bello, son of a former PDP chairman, Haliru Bello, was last night, allegedly, stabbed to the death by his wife, Maryam Sanda, who is the daughter of embattled former Aso Savings boss, Hajia Maimuna Aliyu.

According to reports, the attack was as a result of an allegation of infidelity after she saw a text message on his phone. The deceased was stabbed 3 times in the back; and severally on his private parts, at their home in Maitama, Abuja.

Before this, Maimuna had bit part of his ear off and was treated at a hospital before returning home. He was advised to leave the house but he refused. After stabbing him, she drove him to the hospital where he died.

The couple had a daughter together.

Late Binyamin Bello has since been buried according to Islamic rites in Abuja after his janaza at Abuja national Mosque today 19th November, 2017.

 

Read Shocking Reason 55-Year-Old Man Killed Wife

A 55-year-old Kenyan man, James Ololo based in Belgium has been arrested after allegedly killing his wife. According to reports Ololo drove to his wife’s house to plead with her to terminate a court case in which she applied for divorce.

James Ololo then refused to leave the residence and ended up engaging in a fight with Elizabeth Wafula Ololo which lead to stabbing her multiple times. Neighburs informed police of the incident, who arrived and arrested him.

Neighbors said James Ololo has been engaging in frequent domestic confrontation with the deceased contributed mostly by alcohol and infidelity.

A prosecutor in charge of the region where Elizabeth was living said James Ololo grabbed a knife and stabbed Wafula several times after a quarrel ensued.

James Ololo and a friend known as Simeon Situma founded a company Kenya Experts Community a few years ago to assist Kenyans relocating to Belgium to establish businesses.Elizabeth was a business lady and a member of the Association of Kenyan Diaspora in Belgium and Luxembourg and she is known for her charity works such as the Children’s Perfect Hope Foundation. Close friends of Elizabeth said she had tried to separate with James for two years, but he has increasingly turned aggressive.